All praise be to Allah.
An ideal wife in Islam has these beautiful characters.
She is The Patient one:
The woman who remains patient in all circumstances and situation and understands her husband, and never whines or moans over small issues. She doesn’t complain or she is not dissatisfied with her husband or marriage. When some trouble or affliction hits her, she turns to Allah Almighty for help.
She is The Protector:
The woman who protects her chastity and her husband’s wealth when he is far away. She doesn’t mingle with other men and doesn’t gossip. As a clever and wise wife, she knows, respects and stays within the boundaries of his gheerah (protective jealousy).
When he returns, she runs into his arms, as if she was anticipating for his return. She allows him time to relax before anything and does not burden him with the day’s problems, but listens attentively to his needs and does her best to take his tiredness away.
She gives much love:
This woman adores her husband, beautifies herself for him, smell nice for him. She is characterized by shyness and modesty, glancing with love in her eyes, only for her husband.
She is The Good Do-er:
She has the excellent reputation in society. She is the kindest and courteous. She is good to her in-laws and neighbors. She respects her relatives and never backbites.
She is Content:
This woman is content about with what Allah has given her. She chooses to be happy with what she has instead of complaining about all the things she doesn’t have. She is thankful for, however, her husband takes care of her, for every morsel of food, every cloth she has and the house where they dwell. She makes her gratefulness known to him in words and action and thus, soothes her husband’s heart.
As the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised, she looks at those less fortunate than herself in the material world. She then becomes even more thankful to her Lord and her Husband for all that she does have.
She is The Pious:
She spends much of her time in Dhikr of Allah and makes the environment in the house as that of the most righteous. She encourages he children and husband to engage in religious things. As the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised, she looks at those more pious than her in the religious sense and strives to progress further in piety and knowledge.
She smiles always:
A wise wife never frowns. She is always smiling and uplifts the atmosphere around her. She always talks gently, choosing the sweetest of words. The ideal wife never raises her voice while talking to her husband.
If her husband is angry with her for some reason and shouts at her, she tries her best not to answer back but instead maintains a dignified silence. She understands that a man by nature, loves to be the ‘king of the jungle’, wanting to prove himself right, it makes him feel good. Two seconds of patients from the wife can go a long way…
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said; “I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Jannah for the one who gives up arguing even if he/she is in the right…” [Tirmidhi]
May Allah bless all the married couples.
