All praise be to Allah.
An ideal wife in Islam has these beautiful characters.

She is The Patient one:

The woman who remains patient in all circumstances and situation and understands her husband, and never whines or moans over small issues. She doesn’t complain or she is not dissatisfied with her husband or marriage. When some trouble or affliction hits her, she turns to Allah Almighty for help.

She is The Protector:

The woman who protects her chastity and her husband’s wealth when he is far away. She doesn’t mingle with other men and doesn’t gossip. As a clever and wise wife, she knows, respects and stays within the boundaries of his gheerah (protective jealousy).

When he returns, she runs into his arms, as if she was anticipating for his return. She allows him time to relax before anything and does not burden him with the day’s problems, but listens attentively to his needs and does her best to take his tiredness away.

She gives much love:

This woman adores her husband, beautifies herself for him, smell nice for him. She is characterized by shyness and modesty, glancing with love in her eyes, only for her husband.

She is The Good Do-er:

She has the excellent reputation in society. She is the kindest and courteous. She is good to her in-laws and neighbors. She respects her relatives and never backbites.

She is Content:

This woman is content about with what Allah has given her. She chooses to be happy with what she has instead of complaining about all the things she doesn’t have. She is thankful for, however, her husband takes care of her, for every morsel of food, every cloth she has and the house where they dwell. She makes her gratefulness known to him in words and action and thus, soothes her husband’s heart.

As the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised, she looks at those less fortunate than herself in the material world. She then becomes even more thankful to her Lord and her Husband for all that she does have.

She is The Pious:

She spends much of her time in Dhikr of Allah and makes the environment in the house as that of the most righteous. She encourages he children and husband to engage in religious things. As the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised, she looks at those more pious than her in the religious sense and strives to progress further in piety and knowledge.

She smiles always:

A wise wife never frowns. She is always smiling and uplifts the atmosphere around her. She always talks gently, choosing the sweetest of words. The ideal wife never raises her voice while talking to her husband.

If her husband is angry with her for some reason and shouts at her, she tries her best not to answer back but instead maintains a dignified silence. She understands that a man by nature, loves to be the ‘king of the jungle’, wanting to prove himself right, it makes him feel good. Two seconds of patients from the wife can go a long way…

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said; “I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Jannah for the one who gives up arguing even if he/she is in the right…” [Tirmidhi]

May Allah bless all the married couples.

Daughters/Women are so special that when a male marries a female, he is reminded constantly that who you have married is the special child of someone, dear to someone, so we tell the husband’s that when you look at your wife don’t just at her as your wife, that’s not the only title she has, she had a title before that which was dearer and more valuable, what was it?

She’s the daughter of so-and-so she also has her own family that loves her and respects her, so do not disrespect her, do not abuse her, like they say don’t make her cry.

You know when my wife cries I always tell her I’m supposed to, I’m not supposed to allow you to cry, she says: ”I cry out of joy mashAllah” okay that’s good, that’s a good sign so if you’re crying out of joy and happiness Alhamdulillah but if you’re crying out of you sadness, you know you’re stuck, there is no way forward, Wallahi Allah has heard the cry of a wife/women and a daughter.

If you take a look at Surat Al Mujadilah named after a woman who came through in order to present her case to Muhammad (PBUH) where the husband became disinterested in her, read to this and i shall I will end on this note.

I tell you very interestingly there was a woman known as Khawla Bint Tha’laba (RA) so what happened to her, she was married and Masha Allah you know, a pretty beautiful woman, next thing expecting she has a child and when you have a child what happens?

Subhan Allah people forget that you’ve now born children, you’ve graduated into a new level of motherhood now and so on, you will not be the same girl you used to be 20 years back, things have to change perhaps you may change in so many ways you become wiser and perhaps you may even become a little bit heavier, (may Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala grant us ease), she complained because her husband started losing interest or showed disinterest, he was not interested and he started saying whenever she was trying to get him, get his attention, he would say you just like my mother man, it’s okay you know you just like a mother, you just like my sister and so on she went to Muhammad (pbuh) crying weeping complaining what do I do?

This man is saying this to me, he refuses to touch me and at the same time he is the one who impregnated me, he gave me the children, he is the one who did this. When I married him I was in tip-top shape and so on. My dear brothers and sisters read carefully i want to tell you that that does not mean that when you have given birth, you should just lose yourself, no, go back, you will be able to retain a lot if you work on it may (Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala help us) whether they are sit-ups, leg ups whatever you want to call them they work, trust me they actually work, dedicatedly so don’t use a Hadith in order for you to throw yourself.

You know to the side, no! work on it you will feel good by the will of Allah like I said do it for the right reasons going back to this narration, so as she is complaining do you know what happened! The Prophet (PBUH) obviously it’s a difficult situation, what do you say? you need to convince the man, so verses were revealed: indeed Allah has heard the argument of the woman who has come to you complaining to Allah, Allah has heard it (the cry)  and then he gives the response and it’s a long set of verses where Allah speaks of the punishment of those who say those type of statements and how special and important the woman is, you don’t say these words (Masha Allah).

May Allah help us to make the correct decisions in life (Ameen)

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