When you are blessed with your husband or treat him like a king, treat your wife like a Queen (life won’t give second chance). Life won’t give you chance to get back your wife, or your husband. Think before you do. It takes sincere effort from both side equally. A one sided relationship never survives.
It was their anniversary, and Aisha was waiting for her husband Ahmed to show up.
Things had changed since their marriage, the once cute couple couldn’t-live-without-each-other had turned bitter.
Fighting over every little things, both didn’t like the way things had changed.
Aisha was waiting to see if Ahmed remembered it was their anniversary!
Just as the door bell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.
The two started re-living the old days. Sharing old beautiful memories. And it was raining outside! It was perfect.
But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang.
Aisha went to pick it up and it was a man. “Hello ma’am I’m calling from the police station. Is this Mr Ahmed Hasan’s number?” “Yes it is!”
“I’m sorry ma’am; but there was an accident and a man died.
We got this number from his wallet; we need you to come and identify his body.”
Aisha’s heart sank.!!! She was shocked!
But my husband is here with me?”
“Sorry ma’am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train.”
Aisha was about to lose her conscience.
How could this happen??
She ran into the other room.
He was not there. It was true! He had left her for good!!
She rolled on the floor in pain. She lost her chance Forever!
Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom, the door opened and Ahmed came out and said “Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today”.
LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS!!!
So for Allaah’s sake let’s start making amendments…
And many more other relationships..
No one is promised tomorrow. Have a wonderful Life with no regrets! (life won’t give second chance).
I want a husband/wife who will get mad at me when I miss a prayer. I want a husband/wife who will pour cold water on me when I don’t get up for Fajr Salah.
I want a husband/wife who will draw me closer to Allah, who will get upset when I lie, cheat and do bad things and anything wrong. I want a husband/wife who will call me after every Maghrib Salah to read Qur’an together.
I want a husband/wife who will wake me up in the middle of the night for us to pray together and ask forgiveness from Allah. In’ Shaa’ Allah… Ameen.
SADAQAH AND WAYS TO GIVE SADAQAH (VOLUNTARY CHARITY)?
Sadaqah (voluntary charity) is a virtuous deed in Islam. In fact, it is considered as a proof of one’s eeman (faith). The Prophet (s.a.w.s.) sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said in the following authentic hadeeth:
Abu Malik al-Ashari (r.a.) (radhi Allahu anhu) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said: “Cleanliness is half of faith. Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah) fills the scale. Subhan Allah (Glory be to Allah) and Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah) fill up what is between the heavens and the earth. Prayer is a light. Charity is proof (of one’s faith).
Endurance is a brightness and the Qur‘an is a proof on your behalf or against you. All men go out early in the morning and sell themselves, thereby setting themselves free or destroying themselves.” (Muslim, 432)
The more we give sadaqah the more we increase our eeman and thus, expect Allah’s rewards both in this world and in the life hereafter. Giving charity out of our wealth does not decrease our wealth but instead Allah (s.w.t.) increases it:
“Allah will deprive usury of all blessing, but will give increase for deeds of charity: for He loves not creatures ungrateful and sinner.” (Qur‘an, 2: 276)
“That which you give in usury for increase through the property of (other) people, will have no increase with Allah: but that which you give for charity, seeking the Countenance of Allah, (will increase); it is those who will get a recompense multiplied.” (Qur‘an, 30:39)
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) reported Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) as saying: “Charity does not in any way decrease the wealth and the servant who forgives, Allah adds to his respect; and the one who shows humility, Allah elevates him in the estimation (of the people).” (Muslim Vol. 4, Hadith 6264)
Sadaqah is not restricted to giving part of our wealth or material possessions or any special deed of righteousness. Islam considers all good deeds as sadaqah that increase our eeman:
Abu Musa narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said, “Every Muslim has to give in sadaqah (charity).” The people asked, “O Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.)! If someone has nothing to give, what will he do?” He said, “He should work with his hands and benefit himself and also give in charity (from what he earns).” The people further asked, “If he cannot do even that?” He replied, “Then he should help the needy who appeal for help.”
Then the people asked, “If he cannot do that?” He replied, “Then he should perform all that is good and keep away from all that is evil and this will be regarded as charitable deeds.” (Bukhari Vol. 2, Hadith 524)
The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.s.) said: “To smile in the company of your brother is charity. To command to do good deeds and to prevent others from doing evil is charity. To guide a person in a place where he can not get astray is charity. To remove troublesome things like thorns and bones from the road is charity. To pour water from your jug into the jug of your brother is charity. To guide a person with defective vision is charity for you.” (Bukhari)
Since sadaqah is not limited to giving of money or part of our wealth, every Muslim can therefore earn rewards from Allah. Sadaqah is an easy way to increase our eeman. Every Muslim whether poor or wealthy can give sadaqah at all times. The Prophet (s.a.w.s.) tells us that dhikr (remembrance of Allah) is a form of sadaqah. We read in the following Ahadeeth:
Abu Hurairah narrated that “Abu Dharr said to the Messenger of Allah, ‘The wealthy people have all the rewards; they pray as we pray; they fast as we fast; and they have surplus wealth which they give in charity; but we have no wealth which we may give in charity.’
Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said: ‘Abu Dharr, should I not teach you phrases by which you acquire the rank of those who excel you? No one can acquire your rank except one who acts like you.’ He said, Why not, Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.)?
He said: ‘Exalt Allah say: “Allahu Akbar” (Allah is Most Great) after each prayer thirty-three times; and praise Him say: “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) thirty-three times; and glorify Him say: “Subhan Allah” (Glory be to Allah) thirty-three times; and end it by saying, “La ilâha illallâhu wahdahu la shareeka lahu, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu yuhyi wa yomeetu wa Huwa ‘ala kulli shai’in Qadeer.” ( There is no god but Allah alone, He has no partner, to Him belongs the Kingdom, to Him praise is due and He has power over everything.) Your sins will be forgiven, even if they are like the foam of the sea.’” (Abu Dawud 1499)
Abu Dharr narrated that Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “In the morning charity is due from every bone in the body of every one of you. Every utterance of Allah’s glorification is an act of charity. Every utterance of praise of Him is an act of charity; every utterance of profession of His Oneness is an act of charity; every utterance of profession of His Greatness is an act of charity; enjoining good is an act of charity; forbidding what is disreputable is an act of charity; and two rak‘ahs which one prays in the forenoon will suffice.” (Muslim 1557)
For our own success, we should spend time, money and efforts in giving sadaqah for the pleasure of Allah as the rewards of sadaqah is nothing but success, especially in the Hereafter:
“The likeness of those who spend for Allah’s sake is as the likeness of a grain of corn, it grows seven ears every single ear has a hundred grains, and Allah multiplies (increases the reward of) for whom He wills, and Allah is sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower).” (Qur’an, 2:261)
“Those who (in charity) spend of their goods by night and by day, in secret and in public have their reward with their Rabb (only God and Sustainer). On them shall be no fear nor shall they grieve.” (Qur‘an, 2:274)
“…that which you give for charity, seeking the Countenance of Allah, (will increase); it is those who will get a recompense multiplied.” (Qur’an, 30:39)
“Only those who believe in Our Signs, who when they are recited to them fall down in adoration, and celebrate the praises of their Rabb (only God and Sustainer), nor are they (ever) puffed up with pride. They forsake their beds of sleep, the while they call on their Rabb (only God and Sustainer), in Fear and Hope. And they spend (in charity) out of the sustenance which We have bestowed on them.
Now no person knows what delights of the eye are kept hidden (in reserve) for them — as a reward for their (good) Deeds. Is then the man who believes no better than the man who is rebellious and wicked? Not equal are they. For those who believe and do righteous deeds are Gardens as hospitable Homes, for their (good) deeds.” (Qur‘an, 32:15-19)
“For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women for devout men and women for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s remembrance for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward.” (Qur’an, 33:35)
Qais ibn Abu Hazim narrated that…. Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “A Muslim is rewarded (in the Hereafter) for whatever he spends except for something that he spends on building.” (Bukhari, Vol. 7, Hadith 576)
Mu‘aadh bin Jabal (r.a.) related from the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) “Sadaqah extinguishes sin as water extinguishes fire.” (Ahmad, Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah)
The Prophet (s.a.w.s.) also said: “The believer’s shade on the Day of Resurrection will be his Sadaqah.” (Ahmad)
To be able to enjoy Allah’s tremendous rewards for every sadaqah that we give, we need to observe the following teachings:
1. Sadaqah must be done sincerely for the pleasure of Allah and not out of riya‘ (show off) to gain praise or recognition from others:
“O you who believe! Do not render vain your charity by reminders of your generosity or by injury, like him who spends his wealth to be seen of men and he does not believe in Allah nor in the last Day.” (Qur’an, 2: 264)
Sa’d ibn Abu Waqqas narrated that Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “…whatever you spend (for Allah’s sake) you will be rewarded for it, even for a morsel of food which you may put in the mouth of your wife.” (Bukhari, Vol. 8, Hadith 725; Vol. 1, Hadith 53)
2. It is better to conceal what we give or do as sadaqah:
“And whatever you spend in charity or whatever vow you make, be sure Allah knows it all. But the wrongdoers have no helpers. If you disclose (acts of) charity, even so it is well, but if you conceal them and make them reach those (really) in need, that is best for you. It will remove from you some of your (stains of) evil. And Allah is well acquainted with what you do.” (Qur‘an, 2:270-271)
Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.s.) said, “Seven people will be shaded by Allah under His shade on the day when there will be no shade except His. They are:
4. two men who love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting for that.
5. a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position but he says, “I fear Allah”,
6. a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity, and
7. a man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari (Eng. translation) vol. 2, hadeeth no. 504)
3. Sadaqah must be from halal (lawful) source:
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “If one gives in charity what equals one date-fruit from the honestly earned money and Allah accepts only the honestly earned money Allah takes it in His Right (hand). And then, enlarges its reward for that person (who has given it), as anyone of you brings up his baby horse, so much so that it becomes as big as a mountain.” (Bukhari, Vol. 2, Hadith 491)
4. Begin charity with your dependents:
Hakim ibn Hizam narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said: “The upper hand is better than the lower hand, (i.e., he who gives charity is better than him who takes it). One should start giving first to his dependents. And the best object of charity is that which is given by a wealthy person (from the money which is left after his expenses.) And whoever abstains from asking others for some financial help, Allah will give him and save him from asking others, Allah will make him self-sufficient.” (Bukhari, Vol. 2, Hadith 508)
Abu Umamah (r.a.) narrated that Allah’s Messenger said: “O son of Adam, it is better for you if you spend your surplus (wealth), but if you withhold it, it is evil for you. There is (however) no reproach for you (if you withhold means necessary) for a living. And begin (charity) with your dependents; and the upper hand is better than the lower hand.” (Muslim, 2256)
5. Not to delay giving of sadaqah nor show lethargy or negligence in giving sadaqah:
And spend something (in charity) out of the substance which We have bestowed on you, before death should come to any of you and he should say, “O my Rabb (only God and Sustainer)! Why do you not give me respite for a little while? I should then have given (largely) in charity, and I should have been one of the doers of good.” (Qur’an, 63:10)
Haritha ibn Wahb narrated that he heard the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) saying, “O people! Give in charity as a time will come upon you when a person will wander about with his object of charity and will not find anybody to accept it, and anyone (who will be requested to take it) will say, “If you had brought it yesterday, I would have taken it, but today I am not in need of it.” (Bukhari Vol. 2, Hadith 492)
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) narrated that a man came to the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) and asked, “O Allah’s Messenger which charity is the most superior in reward?” He replied, “The charity which you practice while you are healthy, niggardly and afraid of poverty and wish to become wealthy. Do not delay it to the time of approaching death and then say, ‘Give so much to such and such, and so much to such and such.’ (And it has already belonged to such and such (his heirs).” (Bukhari Vol. 2, Hadith 500)
“Do not show lethargy or negligence in giving alms and charity till your last breath.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
6. Do not count the sadaqah you give:
“Spend in charity and do not keep count for then Allah will also keep count in giving you provision.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
7. Seek only the desire to see Allah, which is the supreme success in Paradise. Do not expect favor or reward from any person for the sadaqah you give:
“Those who spend their wealth for increase in self-purification, and have in their minds no favor from anyone for which a reward is expected in return, but only the desire to seek for the Countenance of their Creator Most High; and soon will they attain (complete) satisfaction.” (Qur’an, 92:18-21)
From the above virtuous teachings, we can conclude that indeed, Islam opens for us many ways of increasing our eeman and good deeds through sadaqah. We can perform easy good deeds like smiling and dhikr (remembrance of Allah), which we can do at anytime and get rewards. The rich among us can earn more rewards if we give part of our wealth to the poor members of our relatives, friends, neighbors and the society at large.
If we have the ability to extend sadaqah especially to other poor Muslims outside our community or country then we must extend our help. Another virtuous way of giving sadaqah is by supporting individuals and groups who are doing Da‘wah (inviting people to Islam or the Truth) for the pleasure of Allah the Almighty. Let us take inspiration from the following Qur‘anic ayah:
“And he who brings the Truth and he who confirms (and supports) it — such are the men who do right. They shall have all that they wish for, with their Rabb (Only God, Cherisher and Sustainer). Such is the reward of those who do good: so that Allah will remit from them (even) the worst in their deeds and give them their reward according to the best of what they have done.” (Qur’an 39:33-35)
Let us hasten to give sadaqah for life in this world is short and temporary while the world in the Hereafter is everlasting. We never know when death has been decreed for us. Today we live and we never know how long we will enjoy the pleasure of this world. But one thing is certain: life in this world is nothing compared to the everlasting life in the Hereafter. Allah (s.w.t.) tells us:
“Nothing is the life of this world but play and amusement, but best is the Home in the Hereafter, for those who are righteous, will you not then understand?” (Qur’an, 6:32)
“Allah does enlarge, or grant by (strict) measure, the sustenance (which He gives) to whom so He pleases — (the worldly) rejoice in the life of this world. But the life of this world is but little comfort compared to the Hereafter.” (Qur’an, 13:26)
Let us prepare ourselves for the everlasting world to come. Let us be among those who will earn Allah’s rewards in Jannah (the Garden of Bliss or Paradise) through giving sadaqah in many ways. Let us continue earning Allah’s rewards of our good deeds by giving sadaqah that continues to benefit others.
Let us think of giving sadaqah to support Islamic projects like building of mosques, Islamic schools, Islamic libraries, orphanage and da‘wah centers. If Allah has blessed us with wealth, let us not delay to build any or all of the said Islamic projects for the sole pleasure of Allah. If we do so, we will certainly attain the rewards of doing good deeds continuously even after we die. Let us be inspired to give sadaqah with the following authentic hadeeth:
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said: “Verily what a believer continues to receive (in the form of reward) for his action and his virtues after his death is the knowledge which he acquired and then disseminated; the pious son that he left behind him; or a copy of the Qur’an which he left as a legacy; or the mosques that he had built; or the inn that he had built for the wayfarers; or the canal that he caused to flow, or a sadaqah which he gave out of his property in the state when he was healthy and alive. (These are the acts of goodness the reward of which) reaches him even after his death.” (Tirmidhi, 254; Ibn Majah and Bayhaqi)
For those who are wealthy but miser or negligent in giving sadaqah may they take admonitions from the following words of Allah and His Messenger (s.a.w.s.):
So he who gives (in charity) and fears (Allah), and (in all sincerity) testifies to the Best, We will indeed make smooth for him the path to Ease. But he who is a greedy miser and thinks himself self-sufficient, and gives the lie to the Best, — We will indeed make smooth for him the Path of Misery; nor will his wealth profit him when he falls headlong (into the Pit).
Verily We take upon Us to guide, and verily unto Us (belong) the End and the Beginning. Therefore do I warn you of a Fire blazing fiercely; none shall burn therein but those most unfortunate ones who give the lie to Truth and turn their backs. But those most devoted to Allah shall be removed far from it. (Qur’an, 92:4-17)
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said, “The example of a miser and the one who gives in charity, is like the example of two men wearing iron cloaks so tightly that their arms are raised forcibly towards their collar-bones. So, whenever a charitable person wants to give in charity, his cloak spreads over his body so much so that it wipes out his traces.
But whenever the miser wants to give in charity, the rings (of the iron cloak) come closer to each other and press over his body and his hands get connected to his collar-bones. Abu Huraira heard the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) saying, “The miser then tries to widen it but in vain.” (Bukhari, Vol. 4, Hadith 166; also see Vol. 2, Hadith 523)
Abu Hurairah (r.a.) narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said, “Every day two angels come down from Heaven and one of them says, ‘O Allah! Compensate every person who spends in Your cause’, and the other (angel) says, ‘O Allah! Destroy every miser.’” (Bukhari, Vol. 2, Hadith 522)
Abu Dharr (r.a.) narrated that… Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “Those who have much wealth (in this world) will be the least rewarded (in the Hereafter) except those who do like this and like this (i.e., spend their money in charity).” (Bukhari, Vol. 8, Hadith 285)
Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (r.a.) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “A crafty one, a miser, and one who keeps reminding people of what he has given, will not enter Paradise.” (Tirmidhi, 1873)
May Allah the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful give us opportunities to do many ways of giving sadaqah for His pleasure and reward us best life, especially in the Hereafter. May we spend our lives, time, money and efforts or everything in us to do deeds that Allah accepts as forms of sadaqah solely for His Sake. May our Rabb save us from the Hell-Fire by protecting us from being miser.
May Allah Forgive our sins and help us, Guide us and Protect us from evil do ers, Negativity, Shaitaan and all evil forces. May ALLAH grant us all Highest level of Jannah and Make our children our Sadqa Jaria and make us our parents and elders Sadaqa Jaria. May Allah forgive any mistakes i did writing this note.
Music is a big part of our lives. It is a social trend, ever growing and popular worldwide.
Quran vs Music: No doubt, you get constantly bombarded by music of all types – at shopping malls, high streets and open markets; jingles playing back-to-back on the radio, TV channels and the internet.
Nowadays, music also plays an explicit role in many educational settings and workplaces. If you are faced with such circumstantial contact with music, it could be a source of never-ending worry and stress. For many, however, especially the youth it could be a deliberate choice – living with music as nourishment and balm for the mind, body and soul.
It may be perceived as a harmless activity and a source of inner peace, relaxation, creativity and inspiration. After all if it doesn’t stop you from praying, fasting and performing good deeds, what is the big deal… right?
A Case of Parallels
I look back to a learning session a few years back. Our teacher explained that Qur’an and music can never thrive harmoniously in the heart of a believer. I struggled with this simple truth for many months afterwards. And it was such a big deal for me.
Although I was learning to be a good Muslim, I continued feeding my desire albeit a negative one. This had grave consequences on my thoughts, acts of worship and lifestyle in general. I tried to think of a way to find a middle point with this seemingly parallel case. You could be faced with similar desires and inner battle right now.
‘Music or Quran?’
The Noble Qur’an needs no introduction. It is a mercy, guide and protection for mankind. It is also a powerful reminder, miracle and divine revelation. As the great scholar Ibn Qayyim said, “The Qur’an is all about tawheed”. And nothing should rank higher in terms of priority for the Muslim than upholding tawheed.
Music on the other hand is all about everything but tawheed. While you may still argue about the many benefits of music, I present you with 12 simple truths to ponder.
Qur’an: Speech of Allah . Music: Created, reproduced and distributed by humans.
Quran: Tawheed (Oneness of Allah ), Aqeedah (creed), issues related to worship, eternal gains. Music: The most common is lowly desires and worldly gains .
Qur’an: 100% beneficial at all times, whether its being recited, listened to or pondered upon. Music: Slight benefit for certain types and at certain times e.g., soothing music to calm down, motivational lyrics, etc.
Quran: Related to success in this world and hereafter; also related to virtuous character, good deeds and worship. Music: Related to acquiring success in this world only; also related to corrupt character, alcohol, drugs, carnal desires and suicide.
Quran: Invites to the sunnah, obedience, worship, guidance, good character, forgiveness, paradise. Music: To a large extent, invites to sin and all things leading to possible sin (lowly desires, wealth, power, disbelief, nudity).
Quran: Remembrance of Allah . Music: Distraction from remembrance of Allah .
7. Production and Replication
Quran: Has never been and cannot be produced. Allah challenged mankind in various verses to do so. Music: Anyone can re/produce music. There are many courses, schools and experts dedicated to learning the art.
8. General Effect
Quran: Gives soothing internal effects that are long lasting and soul nourishing; long term feel-good-effect. Music: Gives an external soothing effect that is temporary; short term feel-good-effect.
9. Effect on Soul
Quran: Pure nourishment for the soul through spiritual cleansing and purification. Music: Junk food for the soul through lowering of spritual strength and draining the nafs.
10. Effect on Heart
Quran: Builds a sound heart, free of diseases. Music: Increases diseases of the heart, from doubts to desires.
Quran: Message can blossom subliminally into a positive lifestyle and a stable personality. Music: Message can transform lifestyle into a negative one producing an unstable, corrupt personality.
12. Connection with Allah
Quran: Makes one develop a high degree of consciousness of Allah , taking one closer to Him. Music: Brings about ‘gaflah’ (heedlessness) of Allah , increasing attraction to musicians.
Way Forward The believer has a purpose driven life, seeking worldly good as well as eternal good. You may take various means and processes while seeking this good, striving to overcome your desires and remaining firm upon the truth. There is no doubt the Qur’an is the greatest personal development tool for mankind; driving self and spiritual growth, reinforcing the truth of tawheed, directing towards the fitrah and promoting self reflection.
”This is the Book about which there is no doubt, a guidance for those conscious of Allah” (Al Baqarah, 2:2)
The global music industry is worth billions of dollars and steadily increasing in revenue. Yet, they are busy innovating new ways to oppose the message of guidance by promoting music and musicians to such a high status, as a means of finding worldly success, happiness and inner peace. Don’t fall into heedlessness. Fight your nafs. And keep pondering these simple truths.
Your turn – What other striking contrasts can you find between Qur’an and music? Please share below.
Recommended Reading Dr. Gohar Mushtaq (2011). The Music Made Me Do It. An In-Depth Study of Music through Islam and Science. International Islamic Publishing House (IIPH). Riyadh, Saudi Arabia
Hijab includes the way a person talks, walks, looks and thinks. All of it should be done modestly and it applies to both men and women.
Seeing a woman with a HIJAB on her head is like finding a diamond amongst some stones. ♥ I don’t care what others say…i’ll do my duty and wear my Hijaab for Allah Ta’ala. ♥ Oppression and protection are two different things. Islam protects women, not oppresses them.”
I wear my Niqab / Hijab for ALLAH, Not for my father, Not for my brother, Not for any other Than ALLAH.
I cover myself for ALLAH, No one makes me, No one forsakes me, No one rejects me, No one subjects me, But ALLAH.
My modesty is for ALLAH, Commanded in Qu’ran For Him and no one else Seeking His reward Moving closer toward ALLAH…..
Dedicated To all my Sisters, friends, aunts and mothers in Islam.
Our Hijab is A- Act of worship. Our Hijab is B- Beauty. Our Hijab is C- Cover of our body. Our Hijab is D- Dignity. Our Hijaab is E- Elegant wear. Our Hijaab is F- Favourite cover. Our Hijaab is G- Gift from Allah. Our Hijaab is H- Health veil. Our Hijaab is I- Identity. Our Hijaab is J- Justified covering.
Our Hijaab is K- Knowledge right. Our Hijaab is L- Legal right. Our Hijaab is M- Modesty. Our Hijaab is N- Nobility. Our Hijaab is O- Obedience to Allah. Our Hijaab is P- Precious pride. Our Hijaab is Q- Quality cover. Our Hijaab is R- Right in Islam. Our Hijaab is S- Strength to us. Our Hijaab is T- Treasure to us.
Our Hijaab is U- Unique to us. Our Hijaab is V- Veil to cover body. Our Hijaab is W- World best fashion Our Hijaab is X- Xtra cute Our Hijaab is Y- Youthful protection for the girl child Our Hijaab is Z- Zeal for emancipation for good behaviour.
Allah has forbidden men to have sexual intercourse with their wives during Menstruation.
Allah says in Glorious Quran:
“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses” [al-Baqarah 2:222]
From the above verse, it is clearly forbidden by Allah to do it and He, subhana-wa-taala has told us that it is harmful to both men and women.
Science has revealed some of the harms that are disclosed in this verse but they have not fully managed to describe all of them. In this article, we will try to discuss some of those.
Having intercourse with a menstruating woman must be avoided because it results in an increase in the flow of menstrual blood as the veins of the uterus are congested and prone to rupture. Hence, they get damaged easily and may result in injury. The walls of the vagina are also susceptible to injury so the likelihood of inflammation is increased. Also, mans penis can also be inflamed due to irritation caused during intercourse.
Having intercourse during menstruating is also off-putting to both the man and the woman because of the presence of blood and its smell. It may make a person uninterested in sex.
Dr. Muhammad al-Baar said, “speaking of the harm that may be caused to the menstruating woman: The lining of the uterus is shed during menstruation, and the uterus is scarred as a result, just like when the skin is flayed. So it is vulnerable to bacteria and the introduction of the bacteria that are to be found at the tip of the penis poses a great danger to the uterus.”
Hence we can conclude that the penetration of the penis into the vagina at the time of menstruation is the induction of germs at the time when the body is unable to fight them off.
Some doctors also believe that harm is not limited to the uterus and sexual organs but may be spread to other organs as well.
1. The spread of infection to the fallopian tubes, which may then become blocked, which in turn may lead to infertility or ectopic pregnancy, which is the most dangerous kind of pregnancy.
2. Infection may be spread to the urethra, bladder, and kidneys; Diseases of the urinary tract are serious and chronic in many cases.
3. An increase of germs in the menstrual blood, especially gonorrhea germs.
4. It may cause immense pain in the pelvic region in women as menstruation is accompanied by pains, the severity of which varies from one woman to another.
5. Many women suffer depression and stress during menstruation and intercourse may cause an increase in it.
6. Women’s sexual desire decreases and many women have no interest at all in sex during their periods. The entire reproductive system is in a state that is akin to sickness, so intercourse at this time is not natural and serves no purpose, rather it can cause a great deal of harm.
It is not the only woman who is affected by this rather men may also be affected by this action.
It may cause infection which may result in sterility in men. The severe pains suffered as a result of this infection may be even worse than the sterility it causes.
And there are many other harmful effects, some of which have not yet been discovered, but Allaah has referred to them when He said (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath)”
Allaah has described it as adha, a harmful thing both for the wife and for the husband, and other harmful effects about which Allaah knows best.
Thus it becomes clear that the prohibition on intercourse at the time of menstruation is not just because of the blood, rather it is for many reasons as stated above.
However, it is permissible for a man to be intimate with his wife, without having intercourse (at the time of menstruation).
Masturbation is haraam in Islam for both men and women.
It is forbidden and there are numerous evidence that point out this. Masturbation is a sin which tempts and leads a person towards Zina and immodesty.
All believing men and women are to guard their chastity and refrain from such evil acts. The religion of Islam wants a person to be of extremely pure and modest nature.
There is no place for any kind of immodest or wickedness in Islam. Allah subhana-wa-ta’ala has made all the good and lawful things pure and clean and the impure things are regarded as unlawful.
It is because of this the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “the best of the people is the one with the good character”. Hence a person must always strive to be of best character.
In another narration, he says: “When your modesty goes on reducing (and there remains no veil of a hindrance in between you and immorality), then do whatever you wish”. (Bukhari) We can conclude from this hadith that with the beginning of masturbation, the modesty of a person goes on decreasing to a level where he doesn’t care about any immorality conducted by him. He is left with no shame and doesn’t fear Allah subhana-wa-ta’ala.
In one of the narration Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) mentions that: ““Modesty is a branch of Imaan” (Bukhari)
Hence a person who indulges in evil acts of immorality are the ones with week Imaan or in other words, the faith of a person is weakened by the evils of immodesty and immorality. From the Quranic perspective, Imam Shaafi stated that masturbation is Haraam and forbidden from the following verses of Quran.
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except for their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, – for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.” 23.5-7 “And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste until Allah enriches them of His bounty.” 24.33.
In the first verse above it can be clearly seen that the illegal sexual acts(including Masturbation) are forbidden and whoever indulges in it is a transgressor. In the second verse, we can see that if a person is capable of marrying must marry and protect himself from evil acts and if he is not capable of marrying(financially) than he must fast as fasting will help him in being patient in facing temptations.
Curing the habit of masturbation :
1. The intention. The motive to cure the problem must be to attain Allah’s blessings and solely based on fearing His punishment.
2. Marriage. If a person is financially capable of marrying that he should not waste any time and get married soon as this will protect him from immorality.
3. Keeping oneself busy with the work and worshipping Allah subhana-wa-ta’ala.
4. Avoid watching indecent movies, photographs, and pornography that promotes immorality and immodesty.
5. Lowering your gaze.
6. Using your leisure in helping others and worshipping Allah.
7. Being aware of the health problems such as weak eyesight, back pain etc caused by the masturbation.
8. Avoiding the thoughts that it is permissible because it prevents one from committing Zina. No, it leads one to it.
9. Willpower. a strong willpower is mandatory to achieve anything and if a person is not sincere and lacks willpower than he will not be able to cope up with the problem.
10. Follow Prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him)`s advice i.e. fasting. If the problem is too chronic that a person is advised to fast as it diminishes the power of sexual temptations.
11. Keep a good company. Try to be with people who are god fearing and righteous. Avoid to be in the company of those for whom immorality is normal.
12. Ask Allah to cure you. Seek his forgiveness and do tawbah.
May Allah protect and help us. May Allah keep us from all the roots of evil and wickedness.
It’s a common understanding among the Muslims that shirk is only done by non-Muslims. But No! It is not so. Shirk is also prevalent among Muslims. Below mentioned and explained are some of the common types of it which we find among Muslims.
(i) Going to the grave and calling upon the dead.
(ii) Wearing of Talisman (Taweez)
(iv) Fatwa Shopping
(v) Palmistry and Fortune telling
(vi) Asking someone to intercede with Allah (SWT)
(vii) Riya Showing off
(viii) Excessive love of someone or something
(ix) Worship of Money
(x) Making your own nafs as a god (Worshipping your passions)
Many people who profess to be Muslims, go to the Dargah and call upon a dead person in the grave and they think that by doing so they will have their needs fulfilled. What is the difference between that and worshipping an idol? It is one and the same thing!!
“But you cannot make those to hear who are (buried) in graves.” (Quran 35:22)
(ii) Wearing of Talisman (Taweez)
Wearing of amulets, talisman (taweez) etc. is also shirk Since you attribute it the power to protect you.
Isa ibn Hamza said: I went to see Abdullah ibn Hakim and his face was red due to high fever. I said to him: ‘Why don’t you use an amulet?’ He said: ‘We seek refuge with Allah from it. The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “Whoever wears anything as an amulet will be entrusted to it”. (Narrated by Abu Daw’ud)
Democracy means “rule of the people”. It is people who decide what is lawful and what is unlawful. What is halal (lawful) and what is haraam (unlawful). The sovereignty belongs to people and NOT to Allah. When we demand democracy, we deny that Allah is Al-Hakim (The judge) and we deny that Allah is Al-Hakeem (The most wise).
(iv) Fatwa Shopping
Some Muslims hunt for a fatwa which suits their perverted beliefs, and when they get it, they rely upon it and continue doing what they are doing even though its ruling is crystal clear in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh). Some examples of Fatwa shopping are:
Riba: Though majority of scholars agree that bank interest is prohibited in Islam and its very clear from the Quran and the Sunnah. Yet certain Muftis have given fatwas that it is permissible for Muslims living in the west to deal in interest.
Muslims normally hunt for such fatwas and continue dealing in riba even though its prohibition is crystal clear in the Quran
Hijaab: When France enforced the ban on hijaab, certain Muftis went on to say that its not compulsory for Muslim women in the west to wear hijaab! Many Muslims hunt for such fatwas and start following such Muftis, even though its commandment is in black & white in the Quran.
So Dear Muslims follow what Allah and his Messenger (SAW) say and stop hunting for fatwas to suit your perverted beliefs.
(v) Palmistry and Fortune telling
All sorts of fortune telling including palmistry and horoscopes are prohibited in Islam. Only Allah (SWT) knows the future and only he has the knowledge of the unseen. It is shirk because you attribute one of the qualities of Allah to human beings who do not have the knowledge of the unseen.
(vi) Asking someone to intercede with Allah (SWT)
Some Muslims ask Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and also other saintly people to intercede with Allah. It is no doubt a shirk .It is prohibited to ask someone to intercede with Allah. He commands us to pray and supplicate to him directly. But certain people still intercede with Allah. Many Shia Muslims ask Hazrat Ali to intercede with Allah which is shirk .
“And your Lord says: “Call on Me; I will answer your (Prayer): but those who are too arrogant to serve Me will surely find themselves in Hell – in humiliation!”
(vii) Riya Showing off
Riya (Showing off) is that you do your deeds to show off to people and not to appease Allah.
Prophet (SAW) said: ‘The thing that I fear for you the most is minor shirk’. The companions asked: ‘O’ Messenger of Allah, what is minor shirk?’ He replied: ‘Showing off (ar-riya), for verily Allah will say on the day of resurrection when people are receiving their rewards, ‘Go to those whom you were showing off too in the world and see if you can find any reward from them”.
(viii) Excessive love of someone or something
Many Muslims beat themselves to commemorate someone who has passed away. They get dissatisfied with the will of Allah. Loving someone or something more than Allah (SWT) is also shirk.
“But those of Faith are overflowing in their love for Allah.” (Quran) The love for Allah is being obedient to him and his messenger (pbuh).
(ix) Worship of Money
Meaning halal or haram, the person doesn’t care, he just want to have it.
The Prophet pbuh said, “Let the slave of Dinar and Dirham of Quantify and Khamisa (i.e. money and luxurious clothes) perish (destroy) for he is pleased if these things are given to him, and if not, he is displeased (and he doesnt care if its halal or haram).”
(x) Making your own nafs as a god (Worshipping your passions)
A Muslim is the one who submits his will to Allah. If you submit to anyone else other than Allah, you have taken that thing or that person as a god other than Allah. It even includes your nafs. If you submit to your nafs and do whatever you want to do regardless of what Allah commands, then you have made it your god.
Allah says in Quran: “Did you see the one who took his own wishes and whims as his god?” —————————————————————————-
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 51: Say: “Nothing will happen to us except what Allah has decreed for us: He is our Protector”; and on Allah let the believers put their trust.
Most of us including me would think that the above means that every little thing we do is shirk, and will allah forgive us or not etc?
The kinds that are mentioned above are true as references of the above are available in Quran & Sunnah but keep this in mind that if we do any of the above shirks mistakenly than it will be considered as a sin and one can repent for it. But if they become your habit & you do it again & again & even after knowing that its shirk than even one of the above committed can destroy all the good deeds.
❝If there is something you want in life and you are not praying tahajjud (Night Prayer) for it you don’t really want it.❞ — Shaykh Yasir Qadhi
❝The Dua made at tahajjud is like an arrow that does not miss its target.❞ — Imaam Ash Shafi (ra)
Get up to pray in the dark when all are asleep and see how your path is lit and your life begins to shine.
#Tahajjud Many people talk about Allah but very few talk to Allah.
Bring Tahajjud and Du’a into your life and talk to Him. If there is something you want to ask Allah, start praying tahajjud. Tahajjud time is on even 15 mins before #fajr so if you are a heavy sleeper you should try waking up atleast 20 mins before fajr and offer tahajjud. Raise your hands in dua in tahajjud + be consistent, Allah loves hearing our duas.
Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace be upon him) said, ❝The best prayer after the obligatory prayers is the night prayer.❞ [Sahih Muslim]
Benefits of Tahajjud (The Night Prayer):
1 – Implementing the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu alayhi was sallam) which he never use to miss
2 – A way of getting your Dua’s accepted
3 – A way of getting your sins forgiven
4 – By performing it, it will bring light to your face and soul
5 – It helps you fight your desires
6 – It makes you closer to Allah
7 – It builds the love of the Hereafter in your heart
8 – It softens the heart and humbles you in front of Allah
9 – It strengthens the Qur’an that you have memorised
Narrated Abu Huraira (Radiallahu anhu): Allah’s Apostle (Peace be upon him) said,
“Our Lord, the Blessed, the Superior, comes every night down on the nearest Heaven to us when the last third of the night remains, saying: “Is there anyone to invoke Me, so that I may respond to invocation? Is there anyone to ask Me, so that I may grant him his request? Is there anyone seeking My forgiveness, so that I may forgive him?” [Bukhari]
SHARE and Spread the knowledge so it will be Sadqa-e-Jaaria (everlasting charity) for you and for me… In-sha’-Allah. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ❝Whoever directs someone to a good, then he will have the reward equal to the doer of the action.❞ [Muslim 1893]
We are posting this story here for those reverts who pray in tears to save their parents from fire;
This story will give you hope and patience… , In sha Allah one day your parents and loved ones will follow your path and will enter Islam, In sha Allah you will enjoy the sweetness of their companionship once again…
It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said:
I used to call my mother to Islam when she was a mushrikah. I called her one day and she said something about the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) that I did not like to hear.
So I went to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) weeping, and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have been calling my mother to Islam, but she refuses. I called her today and she said something about you that I did not like to hear. Pray to Allah to guide the mother of Abu Hurairah.”
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,
“O Allah, guide the mother of Abu Hurairah.” I went out feeling optimistic because of the duaa of the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him). When I came home and reached the door, I saw that it was slightly ajar.
My mother heard my footsteps and said, “Stay where you are, O Abu Hurairah!” and I could hear the trickling of water. She took a bath and got dressed, and put on her headcover, then she opened the door and said, “O Abu Hurairah, I bear witness that there is no god except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger!”
I went back to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), and I came to him weeping with joy. I said, “O Messenger of Allah, rejoice, for Allah has answered your prayer and guided the mother of Abu Hurairah.” So he praised Allah and said good words.
I said, “O Messenger of Allah, pray to Allah to make my mother and me beloved to His believing slaves, and to make them beloved to us.” The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “O Allah, make this slave of Yours – meaning Abu Hurairah – and his mother beloved to Your believing slaves, and make the believers beloved to them.” So there are no believing people who hear of me even though they do not see me, but they love me. (Narrated by Muslim, 2491)
Building mosques over the graves of Prophets and righteous people, or over places connected to their lives, is something which the perfect sharee’ah of Islam came to forbid and warn against, and curses those who do that (grave worship), because it is one of the means that lead to shirk and exaggeration about the Prophets and the righteous people….
See More It is not permissible for graves to be left in mosques, whether that is the grave of a wali (“saint”) or of anyone else, because the Messenger (PBUH) forbade that and warned against that, and he cursed the Jews and Christians for doing that.
It was narrated that he (PBUH) said: “May Allah curse the Jews and the Christians, for they took the graves of their Prophets as places of worship.” [Bukhaari, 1330, Muslim, 529]
He (PBUH) also said: “When a righteous man died among them, they would build a place of worship over his grave and put those images in it. They are the most evil of mankind before Allaah.” (Al-Bukhaari, 427; Muslim, 528)
He (PBUH) said: “Those who came before you took the graves of their Prophets and righteous people as places of worship. Do not take graves as places of worship – I forbid you to do that.” (Narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh, 532, from Jundab ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Bajali).
So the Prophet (PBUH) forbade taking graves as places of worship and he cursed those who do that, stating that they are the most evil of mankind. So we must beware of that.
Jabir said: Allah’s Messenger PBUH forbade that the graves should be plastered or they be used as sitting places (for the people), or a building should be built over them. [Muslim :: Book 4 : Hadith 2116 also Muslim: Book 4: Hadith 2114]
Abu Wail reported that Sayyidina Ali (RA) said to Abu Hayyaj Asadi, “I am sending you to do what the Prophet sent me to do, (that) leave no high grave without levelling it (with the ground) and no picture without obliterating it.” [Tirmidhi 1051, Sahih by Albani also Abu Dawud 3218, Nisai 2027, also Muslim :: Book 4 : Hadith 2115]
It is known that everyone who prays at a grave (Dargah) is taking it as a place of worship, and whoever builds a mosque over a grave (Dargah) has taken it as a place of worship.
So we must keep graves far away from the mosques and not put graves inside mosques, in obedience to the command of the Prophet (PBUH) and so as to avoid the curse issued by our Lord against those who build places of worship over graves (grave worship), because when a person prays in a mosque in which there is a grave, the Shaytaan tempt them to call upon the deceased or to seek his help, or to pray to him or prostrate to him, thus committing major shirk (polytheism) and going out of fold of Islam.
Everyone who looks at the state of the Muslim world and the shirk and exaggeration that have come about because of building mosques over tombs, venerating them, adorning them and appointing custodians for them, will realize that this is indeed a means that leads to ‘Grave Worshipping’.
Clearance Of Two Doubts.
Doubt No. 1: Some people use the story of the People of the Cave to support their specious argument that this is allowed: “(then) those who won their point said (most probably the disbelievers): ‘We verily, shall build a place of worship over them’” [al-Kahf 18:21]
The answer to that is: that Allaah has told us about the leaders and powerful people of that time, and that they said these words. That does not imply that ALLAH liked that or approved of them, rather ALLAH said that by way of blaming them and condemning their action.
This is indicated by the fact that the Messenger (PBUH) to whom this verse was revealed and who was the most knowledgeable of people as to how it should be interpreted, forbade his ummah to build mosques over graves, warned them against doing so, and cursed and condemned those who did that.
If that had been permissible, then the Messenger of Allaah (PBUH) would not have discouraged it in such emphatic terms, and gone to the extent of cursing those who did it, and said that they are the most evil of mankind before Allaah.
This is sufficient to convince the seeker of truth. Even if we were to assume that building places of worship over graves was permitted to those who came before us, it is not permissible for us to follow their example in that, because our sharee’ah abrogates the laws that came before it, and our Messenger (PBUH) is the Final Messenger whose sharee’ah is complete and universal.
He has forbidden us to build mosques over graves, so it is not permissible for us to go against him.
Doubt No. 2: There is another specious argument put forward by those who worship graves, namely the fact that the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) is in his mosque.
Islam forbids erecting structures over graves, and commands that any such structures should be knocked down, as it surely leads to Grave worshipping (grave worship) thereby causing to commit shirk (polytheism- associaing partners with ALLAH) and eventually making the one to leave the fold of Islam.
The kalimah of Tawheed gets nullified and the one no longer remains Muslim. Shaykh‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (rahmahullah) said: The answer to that is that the Sahaabah (radhiallahuanhum) did not bury him in his mosque, rather they buried him in the house of ‘Aa’ishah (radhiallahu anha).
When al-Waleed ibn ‘Abd al-Malik expanded the Mosque of the Prophet (PBUH) at the end of the first century AH, he incorporated the room into the mosque, but he did wrong thereby, and some of the scholars denounced him for that, but he believed that there was nothing wrong with it for the sake of expanding the mosque.
It is not permissible for a Muslim to take that as evidence that mosques may be built over graves, or that people may be buried inside mosques, because that goes against the saheeh ahaadeeth, and because it is a means that may lead to shirk by associating the occupants of the graves in worship with Allaah.
End quote. Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 5/388, 389. Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (rahimahullah) was asked about the ruling on praying in a mosque in which there is a grave.
He replied: Praying in a mosque in which there is a grave falls into two categories:
(i) Either the grave was there before the mosque, and the mosque was built over the grave. It is essential to shun this mosque and not pray therein, and the one who built it must knock it down; if he does not do so, then the Muslim authorities must knock it down.
(ii) Or the mosque was there before the grave, and the deceased was buried after the mosque was built. In the case the grave must be dug up, and the remains taken out and buried with the people (in the graveyard). As for praying in such a mosque, it is permissible so long as the grave is not in front of the worshipper, because the Prophet (PBUH) forbade praying in the direction of graves.
With regard to the grave of the Prophet (PBUH) which is incorporated into his mosque, it is well known that the Mosque of the Prophet (PBUH) was built before his death, and was not built over his grave.
It is also well known that the Prophet (PBUH) was not buried in the mosque, rather he was buried in his house which was separate from the mosque.
At the time of al-Waleed ibn ‘Abd al-Malik he wrote to his governor in Madeenah, who was ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez, in 88 AH, ordering him to dismantle the Prophet’s Mosque and add to it the rooms of the wives of the Prophet (PBUH).
‘Umar ibn Azeez gathered the prominent people and fuqaha’, and read the letter of the caliph al-Waleed to them. That caused them distress, and they said: “Leave it as it is, that is better.” And it was narrated that Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyib denounced the incorporation of ‘Aa’ishah’s room into the mosque, as if he feared that the grave would be taken as a place of worship. Umar ibn Azeez wrote a letter to that effect to al-Waleed, and al-Waleed sent word to him ordering him to carry out his instructions, so ‘Umar had no other choice.
So you see that the grave of the Prophet (PBUH) was not placed in the mosque, and the mosque was not built over it, so there are no grounds for those who try to quote this as evidence that people may be buried inside mosques or that mosques may be built over graves.
It is proven that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “May the curse of Allaah be upon the Jews and the Christians; they have taken the graves of their Prophets as places of worship.” He said that as he was dying, as a warning to his ummah against doing what they did.
When Umm Salamah told him of a church that she had seen in Ethiopia and the images therein, he said: “Those people, if a righteous man among them died, they would build a place of worship over his grave (grave worship).
They are the most evil of people before Allaah.” And it was narrated from Ibn Mas’ood (RA) that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “Among the most evil of people upon whom the Hour will come when they are still alive are those who take graves as places of worship.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad with a jayyid isnaad. [Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 12/question no. 292]
Jabir (RA) said: “Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) forbade that the graves should be plastered or they be used as sitting places (for the people), or a building should be built over them.” [Muslim :: Book 4 : Hadith 2116 also Muslim: Book 4: Hadith 2114]
Abu Wail reported that Sayyidina Ali (RA) said to Abu Hayyaj Asadi, “I am sending you to do what the Prophet sent me to do, (that) leave no high grave without levelling it (with the ground) and no picture without obliterating it.” [Tirmidhi 1051, Sahih by Albani Abu Dawud 3218, Nisai 2027, also Muslim :: Book 4 : Hadith 2115]
ALLAH (SWT) Says: “Surely, the religion (i.e. the worship and the obedience) is for Allâh only. And those who take Auliyâ’ (protectors, helpers, lords, gods) besides Him (say): “We worship them (grave worship) only that they may bring us near to Allâh.” Verily, Allâh will judge between them concerning that wherein they differ. Truly, Allâh guides not him who is a liar, and a disbeliever.” [Surah Zumar, 039:003]
ALLAH (SWT) Says: “And they worship besides Allâh things that harm them not, nor profit them, and they say: “These are our intercessors with Allâh.” [Surah Yunus, 10: 18]
Masturbation affect facial hair growth, body growth, facial, testicles, or skin problems, or cause many physical issues.
It weakens the sexual organs and creates partial looseness in it.
It weakens the nerves generally – a result of the exertion caused by this action.
It creates seminal (spermatic) inflammation in the testicles which causes quick ejaculation of sperm.
It affects the growth of the limbs especially the outer part of the urethra (duct through which urine is discharged from the bladder and the testicles). Hence it does not reach the limit of it’s normal growth.
It causes pain in the vertebra column, the spinal column from which semen is ejaculated. This pain creates crookedness and twisting in the back.
It causes some limbs like the legs to shake and shiver.
It creates weakness in the cerebral glands of the brain which, in turn, weakens the power of perception and reason. Similarly, it leads to the weakness of memory.
It weakens the eye-sight and reduces its normal limit of vision.
It causes a person to become old before time.
It weakens the very delicate and fine nerves and veins of the sexual organs resulting in sexual impotency.
It causes an excessive loss of sperm by way of nocturnal emission (wet dreams).
It decreases the natural resistance of the body.
It causes harm to the four principal organs in the body viz, the heart, brain, liver and stomach.
It decreases the natural animal heat in the body, heat which strengthens the soul and body.
It causes an excessive loss of blood. Remember it takes 80 drops of blood to produce one drop of sperm. (Tajjus Sihat, pg 11)
It weakens the bladder.
The act of masturbation is prohibited in Islam, and must be avoided by the believers.
But just to put it into perspective, the sin of masturbation is not as grave as the sin of zina (adultery or fornication). But it definitely is a sin, and an evil act, and must be avoided by the believers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 30:
O Prophet, enjoin the believing men to restrain their gaze, and guard their private parts. This is a more righteous way for them. Allah has knowledge of whatever they do.
Allah has commanded the believers to lower their gaze, and guard their chastity. This is a more righteous way for them. The act of zina (fornication or adultery) is a great sin in Islam. But the Prophet S.A.W warned us against committing zina of the eyes, zina of the feet, zina of the hands, etc.
If ones eyes are constantly watching sexual movies, magazines, etc. it would be considered zina of the eyes. If one goes to the place to commit zina or to the place of sexual movies, magazines, etc., it would be considered zina of the feet. Similarly, the act of masturbation, could be considered a zina of the eyes, or hands, etc.
It is a sin and an evil act, and must be avoided by the believers.
It has been reported in an authentic narration, that the Messenger of Allah S.A.W said, “O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty; and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.”
Thus if one is unable to control his sexual desire, he should get married, rather than get involved in committing sins like masturbation and zina (fornication or adultery).
And if one is unable to marry, he should fast, as the Messenger of Allah S.A.W says, that fasting reduces the persons sexual desire, and thus will stay away from committing sin.
And Allah Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
May Allah SWT guide you and us all to the Siraat al-Mustaqeem. Ameen
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Spouse: Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.
2. Love :
Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.
3. Search :
Mostly Women Search for Character of Men. So its easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of Women so if he find better one he can forget her but if she makes any mistake to him its difficult to forgive her.
Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relation with your spouse :
Ways To Keep Your Wife’s Love :
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah – don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.
5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
6. Sit down and eat meals together.
7. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
8. Don’t leave home in anger.
Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love :
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”
5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.
6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.
8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
10. Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you” (thats a killer!)
11. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May ALLAH preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners, Ameen!
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