These relationships that you think are so awesome? This message is for you especially teenagers of our Ummah.
Who kinda of shot an email and somebody emailed them back and a little Facebook thing happened you know? a little wink here and there in the playground even though it’s a separate school but in reeses we saw each other, like a little bit of that happened, you know all of this is a product of low self-esteem, you think you’re ugly so if a guy thinks you’re cute, you’re like: o really? i am beautiful? you have low self-esteem, you think nobody’s gonna like you, nobody’s gonna want to marry you and all that stuff.
Now coming back to guys, we don’t have good friendships and good relationships and we’re looking for something always? and let me tell you just because you have raging hormones and you’re like daydreaming about girls and things like that, it doesn’t mean that you’re in love? it just means that you haven’t controlled your temptations yet and you’re ruining somebody’s life. You’re ruining an entire family, do you realize what you’re doing? and you call it love?
Tell me if she was like 50 pounds fatter, you’d still be in love? if she was a burn victim or something, if her hand burnt off or her ear was missing, you’d still be in love? or you’d find somebody else to love all of a sudden? and if you can’t answer that question honestly then come on, you’re not in love, you’re just hormonal, that’s all you are, you know? this is what we’ve done to relationships that are supposed to be beautiful, marriage is supposed to be a beautiful relationship, it’s supposed to be a lifelong relationship but because you’re watching all of these models on TV and stupid like you know? women that are just throwing themselves at men all the stuff and you develop this delusional concept of what it means to have love in your life.
My dear brothers and sisters our Deen (religion) came to free the world from this nonsense because we have a more mature understanding of what it means to have love in your life, you know? I’m not saying you shouldn’t marry someone you like, you should, you should be attracted to your future spouse, all of those things are fine but there’s a decency that you have to exhibit before that, you know?
And if you’re okay with talking to a girl like that then you should be okay with somebody talking to your sister, you’re okay with that too? not if you have any ounce of decency left inside you, this is how we have to, we have to end these things and now if you’ve been in that kind of relationship or you’re in one of those relationships right now, nobody knows, only Allah knows.
So after reading this article you have decided that you will no longer want to be her friend? you are thinking to message here, right? you know don’t even write that because even then you’re looking for a response, you’re kidding yourself and then you’re checking did she write back? yes we should no longer be friends and you will write back: you’re right we really shouldn’t be friends anymore and then she will write back: yeah never again and then here you’re still doing? i mean what is going on man. Just stop this, cut it off, it’s not good for you.
It’s okay to be attracted to a girl. Allah (swt) put that in you, you’re not evil for finding a girl beautiful, it’s not Haram for you to feel that way, you have to control it, you have to control yourself. Our Deen (religion) teaches us self-control and if you cannot exhibit self-control in one aspect of your life, you’ll lose self-control in other aspects of your life, same thing for you my dear Muslim sisters control yourself, control your giggle, control your overly friendly demeanor in certain situations.
Don’t say we’re just friends or he’s like a brother to me. if he ain’t your brother then he ain’t your brother that’s it? I hope you all get my message.
Thank you very much.
Jazaak Allah Khair.